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Being scared of toilets is common in children. It can affect all children. The problem usually occurs when they are at nursery or playgroup, where toilets are usually accessible.

In most cases, this problem resolves itself in time as the child gets older and is no longer scared of using the toilet at home. However, some children do suffer from a long-term phobia which will require treatment by a psychologist or psychiatrist.

5 Reasons Why Your Child Could Be Scared of Toilets At Playgroups

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Reasons Why Children Are Scared of Toilets at Playgroups

Children are naturally wary of the toilet. They may associate bad things with it, especially if they have experienced pain or trauma in using it before.

It’s not uncommon for people to feel uncomfortable when they use new bathroom. So it’s not surprising that children may feel that way too!

An anxious child may have a range of fears, including toileting fears. These fears can be caused by experiences that he/she has had or seen, or by something else.

If your child has been potty trained with no success, they will probably be even more nervous.

As such, there may be a variety of reasons your child is scared of toilets at playgroups:

  1. They may not like going to new places, especially if they have not been there before.
  2. They’re not comfortable with the environment.
  3. The idea of using a toilet in front of other people is unappealing to them.
  4. Sitting on a public toilet seat seems scary.
  5. They may be worried about being left alone while they use the toilet.

How to Deal with Toilet Phobia

  1. Try to talk to your child about their fears. Try to understand what they are afraid of and how to deal with it.
  2. Try not to blame them for being scared; instead, you should reassure them that it is natural for children to be scared sometimes.
  3. Give them lots of praise when they use the toilet at playgroup. It helps them to know that it is okay for them to use it whenever they need to go.
  4. Let your child take part in choosing their nappies/pull-ups if possible so that they feel more grown-up.
  5. Let them go into the bathroom alone for a few minutes and come out again.
  6. When you go to the toilet, try to talk to your child about it. They might feel more relaxed after knowing what’s in there.
  7. Let them ask questions such as: “What do you think will happen when I pull my pants down?”; “Will I have to take my pants off?”; “What happens when I go in the toilet?”

While you might be worried about a urinary tract infection, try not to show those fears to your children. Instead, you can say, “I know it is not very nice to wee in your pants. It can make you feel hot and uncomfortable.”

It is important to be understanding and calm when you are dealing with this problem. Don’t scold or punish your child for being afraid of toilets at playgroups, as this will only make the problem worse.

Often, separation anxiety can cause children to want to hold on for as long as possible. In order to make your child feel more comfortable with using the toilet, try letting them go with you and watch you go.

5 Reasons Why Your Child Could Be Scared of Toilets At Playgroups

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What If Toileting Phobia Persists?

If toileting phobia persists beyond two years of age or becomes more severe as time goes on, then it may be necessary for your child to see a psychologist or psychiatrist who can help them overcome their fears.

There are several ways that the psychologist or psychiatrist can help your child to overcome their fears. They may be able to use hypnosis, desensitization, or behavior therapy to help your child to become more relaxed about using the toilet.

Toileting phobia is very common in children and it is not usually a cause for concern as long as it does not last for too long. However, if you feel that your child is suffering from toileting phobia, then you should seek professional advice as soon as possible.

At playgroups, your child may be the only one not to use the toilet, and this could make them very anxious.

Toileting phobia can affect all children. The problem usually occurs when they are at nursery or playgroup, where toilets are usually accessible.

School-age children may be more aware of the toilet and its surroundings. They may be scared of the smell or being on their own in a cubicle. 

In most cases, this problem resolves itself in time as the child gets older and is no longer scared of using the toilet at home. However, some children do suffer from a long-term phobia which will require treatment by a psychologist or psychiatrist.

Your child psychiatrist might also say that children who suffer from toileting phobia usually suffer from other psychological problems. That’s why you need to be careful if your child shows signs of intense fear when using the toilet.

Give Children Confidence

Being scared of toilets is very common in children. It is not usually a cause for concern as long as it does not last for too long. However, if you feel that your child is suffering from toileting phobia, then you should seek mental health professional advice as soon as possible.

This support can help them feel less alone and give them the confidence they need to be a good parent. Learn more about parenting tips and child development at Mindful Parent. Visit us now!