Good parenting will take all of your time and effort. You need to set up a good environment for your child, both inside and outside the home. This will involve teaching them about life, healthy living, personal development, and how to make their dreams come true.
When you are a parent, you are the only person who can make your child feel good about themselves. If you aren’t doing that, you aren’t a good parent. And when your child doesn’t feel good about themselves, they can’t grow up to be happy adults.
If you have already made the commitment to be a good parent then there are some things that you can do in order to be the best parenting team possible. These include:
Do: Be a good role model
As a parent, you can’t just be a parent; you have to be a good role model. As the saying goes: “monkey see, monkey do.”
If you are a good role model, your child will see you being a good parent and be more likely to want to mimic your good traits.
When they see you treating them and others kindly and with a gentle hand, for example, they will be more likely to treat others the same way.
Don’t: Set unrealistic expectations
You have to teach your child how to behave, but you don’t want to be too harsh with them either. If you are too harsh, they will learn that the only way they can get away with things is by being mean and rude. And this is not the type of person that they want to be in life.
If you have a negative attitude toward your child, they will think that it’s okay for them to act up just because you are angry at them. But it’s not okay! You should always show love and respect towards your children no matter what they do or say.
Do: Use consistent consequences
You should use consistent consequences when it comes to discipline. If you are inconsistent, your child will see that you don’t always have their best interests at heart.
An example for a punishment system is using a time out chair or table. When your child breaks a rule, they sit in the chair or on the table. They also have to stay them for a certain period of time on the time out chair.
After a time out, you make sure that they understand what happened and how it will affect them in the future.
If you want your child to listen to you, they have to be able to trust you. If you can’t maintain consistent consequences for their actions, they will stop listening and will learn that it doesn’t really matter if they stay obedient or not.
Don’t: Be too lenient
You need to set rules and consequences for your child. But you don’t want to be too strict with them, either. The important thing is to never ignore disruptive behavior.
If you are too lenient, your child will start thinking that they can get away with anything. You have to keep them in line or else they won’t respect you and they will act up even more.
If you keep giving them delayed consequences, they will get the idea that they can keep doing whatever they want, whenever they want.
Delayed consequences teach them that twisting and bending the rules is an acceptable thing. And this will lead to a bad future for them.
Do: Have a set daily schedule
You need to set a schedule for your child’s daily routine. You should include things like when they go to bed and what time they get up in the morning.
You should also set aside homework time where they can calmly complete school assignments. After that, you can give them some time to play video games to wind down.
When you have a schedule for them, it makes it easier for them to know what is expected of them. They will be more likely to stick with the rules and stay on track.
If you don’t set a schedule for them, they will find themselves being pulled in different directions all of the time. It’s better if you can keep their day planned out so that there are no unexpected surprises.
Don’t: Compare them to others
When you compare your child to other children, they will start to feel that they are not good enough. And this will cause them to act up in order to prove that they are better than everyone else.
Instead of comparing them to others, you should always uplift their own positive attributes. This will help them be more confident to make their own way in life.
If they seem to be feeling insecure about a particular skill area, make sure you have a positive attitude about it. Tell them that they should be proud of what they’ve achieved, and that nobody is perfect.
Good parenting is not easy. It’s a full time job, and you will have to put in a lot of effort in order to do it right. You need to teach your child about life, and make sure that they grow up into happy adults.
As you can see, there are many different ways that you can go about being a good parent. But you have to be consistent with your parenting rules or else your child will learn that it doesn’t really matter what they do.
There’s no such thing as a perfect child, and there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. The important thing is to make sure that you have good values and you can teach your child about them.
You can do this by teaching them about honesty, respect, discipline, and how to behave in a respectful manner. If you do this, they will grow up to be happy adults who will go on to make their own lives successful.
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