What is Bullying?
Bullying is defined as repeated aggressive behavior over time and involves a real or perceived power imbalance. It occurs when a person or a group repeatedly inflicts hurtful or humiliating actions on one or more people perceived as ‘different’ somehow.
How Bullying Happens?
Bullying can happen face-to-face, through texts, e-mail, or on a social network. Children and teenagers are particularly vulnerable to it because they are still growing and developing and are more easily influenced by their peers.
Effects of Bullying
Bullying can cause physical, psychological, and social harm. The effects are physical as well as psychological and social. In severe cases, it can lead to death.
If you suspect that your child is being bullied, talk to him about it. Try to find out what is happening, how he feels, and what he thinks can stop the it.
Don’t blame him for how it happens. Also, don’t blame him for not telling you sooner.
What Should You Should Do?
The first thing you should do if your child tells you that he is being bullied is to listen. Let him know that you are there for him. If he is too upset to talk, allow him some time to collect himself.
If he is ready to talk, ask him to tell you everything he can about the bullying. Ask him about the incidents and how they happened.
If he is comfortable, ask him to tell you who the bullies are and how they are related to him. You may be able to stop it before it starts.
Work with your child to develop a plan to stop the bullying. Ask your child what makes him feel comfortable about telling you when people bully him.
It may be helpful to discuss what he might do if other people bully him. Ask him how he would like you to respond to the it.
You can try to work out a code word, like “yellow” for “I’m not feeling well” or “red” for “I’m in danger.” Try to find out who is bullying your child.
If he is comfortable, listen to him when he talks about the people who are bullying him. Talk to your children’s teacher if the bullying is happening at school.
If the bullying is happening outside of school, talk to your child’s school counselor or principal. If your child is not comfortable talking to his teacher or counselor, go to the school without him.
Alternatives in Handling It
In the past, schools have not dealt well with bullying. Sometimes, they bullied teachers into not taking steps to stop the bullying.
Talk to your child’s school counselor or principal if this happens to you. If the school still does not respond, contact the school’s district office.
An internet search for “stop bullying Singapore” will bring up the Ministry of Education’s official website. The website has a section on bullying.
The section has various resources, including a list of tips for helping your child, a list of local counseling services, and local support groups.