How to Deal With a Tantrum in Public
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Tantrums are a big problem for many parents, but can also be a big problem for children. Tantrums occur when a child is not able to deal with a situation and loses control of their emotions.

The emotions may be so overwhelming that the child feels they have no other choice but to have a tantrum. This is because the child feels they have no other way to get their point across or to get attention.

What Are Tantrums?

A tantrum is when a child loses control of their emotions and loses control of themselves in an outburst of rage, crying, or throwing things around.

It can be anything from biting or scratching another person, kicking things over, screaming and shouting, throwing objects at people, breaking things off tables or windows etc. These are all signs that a child has lost control of themselves and their emotions, and they need help from their parents.

What Causes Temper Tantrums?

Tantrums can be caused by a number of different things. There are a number of different things that can cause a child to lose control of their emotions and have a tantrum. These are:

1. When the child is tired, hungry or bored 
2. When the child is in pain or discomfort 
3. When the child is in disagreement with another person 
4. When the child has lost something they really wanted 
5. When the child feels they have been ignored by another person when they have asked for something.

How to Handle Temper Tantrums in Public

Public tantrums are difficult to deal with, but it is important that you try and calm your child down. When your child is upset they will do things to get attention.

It may be that they want the parent to pay attention to them or just want the parent to leave them alone. This is normal behaviour for children when they are upset.

There are a few actions and simple strategies you can do to help your child cope with a tantrum in public.

1. Keep yourself calm

Try to keep yourself calm and try not to show your anger to your child. This will make it easier for you to keep control of the situation and will help you to keep them under control as well.

If you let them see that you are angry, then they may feel like they have no other choice but to continue with their tantrum or that they can get attention by being more aggressive in some way. You don’t want this behaviour from your child, so try not to let this happen.

3. Talk calmly about what is happening

If possible, try and talk calmly about what is happening so that your child knows what is going on and why it is happening.

You can do this by saying things like “I’m sorry that you are feeling upset, but we need to talk about why you are feeling upset”. This helps your child to understand what is happening and that you are not angry with them.

4. Explain what they can do to stop the tantrum

If your child is crying, then try and explain to them that they can make themselves feel better by taking a deep breath and holding it for a few seconds.

You can also explain that if they don’t stop crying, then you will take them to leave the room and let them cry in peace. This will help your child to calm down and will help them to realise that their behaviour is upsetting you.

5. Tell them that you love them

If your child is crying, and they are very upset, then tell them that you love them. This will help to calm them down and may stop the tantrums from happening. Tell them you love them, and you want them to be happy, and you want them to be calm.

6. Try and get them to do something

If your child is very upset, then try and get them to do something to make themselves feel better. For example, if they are crying, then try and take them somewhere quiet so that they can calm down.

You can also ask them to take a deep breath and hold it for a few seconds, or ask them to count to 10 slowly before they talk again.

Or, you can make use of their short attention span by shifting their attention to something else, like the people walking or the lights flickering in the room. This will help them to calm down and take their mind off what is happening.

7. Ignore the tantrum

Another method to consider is to ignore the tantrums If your child is throwing things around, then ignore it and let them get on with it. They will soon realise that they are upsetting you and this will stop the tantrum.

You don’t want to make a big deal of it or get angry, so just ignore what is happening, and your child will soon calm down and stop the tantrum. This can’t be done with all public tantrums, but you can try it on some.

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The best way to help your children when they are having tantrums is to keep calm and be supportive. If you start screaming at your children when they are having tantrums, it will only make them feel worse and will only encourage them to continue with their bad behaviour.

This will only encourage them to behave in this way even more. You should try to avoid using any kind of punishment or reward system when dealing with your children’s bad behaviour.

The most important thing you can do is make sure that you give your children some form of attention when they are having tantrums, but don’t overdo it either. You should never talk down to your children or put them down in any way when they are having tantrums.

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