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Basic social skills are a key component of a well-rounded child and one that is often overlooked. They are a critical part of the foundation for a child’s success in school, at home, and in life.

They give children confidence and independence and enable them to have positive social interactions with their peers in positive ways. Children who have mastered basic social skills tend to be happier, more confident, more relaxed, and better adjusted than those who have not.

Basic social skills are so important that it’s worth investing time in teaching them to your child as early as possible. This is because social skills develop gradually over time and so they can be lost if they aren’t developed while your child is young.

This article provides an overview of the social skills that are essential for all children to learn, from the very beginning, and how to begin teaching them in social situations.

Teaching Your Child Basic Social Skills

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Social Skills That Children Need

Acknowledge Others

One of the first steps in any conversation is to acknowledge the other person’s presence and that they are listening. This is one of the most important communication skills.

Acknowledge people’s presence in conversation by using words like “you” or “yes”. Using their name is also a great way to show interest in what they have to say.

Build Rapport

One way to build rapport with someone is to be authentic and honest with them. This will allow you to build trust, which can lead to greater communication and a better understanding of one another.

Control Emotions

Children have more emotional responses than adults do because they are still learning how to regulate their emotions on their own.

They need help learning how to manage their feelings appropriately so they don’t become upset or angry over small things that could have been handled differently if only you had helped them to understand what was happening.

When children are upset or angry, they may become aggressive and act out in other ways, like hitting, biting, and kicking.

It’s important to teach your child how to learn these emotional skills and avoid becoming aggressive or acting out when they are upset.

If you want your child to learn how to control their emotions and develop a better relationship with others, you need to start teaching them basic social skills as soon as possible.

Understanding of Personal Space 

Children need to understand that they have a personal space around them which they should not invade by others. They need to know that if someone comes too close, they should move away from the person who invaded their personal space.

If this happens repeatedly in an unkind way, children need to learn that it’s unacceptable behavior and should stop doing it.

This understanding of personal space can be difficult for some children because it involves self-control. However, the key is for parents and caregivers not only to model the behavior themselves.

Instead, they should give clear instructions about what the limits are for their children so that they learn how to stay within those limits on their own.


Sharing is one of the most critical social skills in children’s education. Children need to learn how to share their toys, their belongings, and their space with others. They need to learn how to be gracious when sharing and how to handle it when they are the one who is asked to share.

This social skill will help them develop relationships with others and will also help them build their self-esteem as they feel proud of themselves for being able to share kindly. This can lead to better friendships, improved relationships with family members, and greater respect from others in general.

Taking Turns

Taking turns means waiting your turn in a group situation like at playtime or mealtime. It is also about being respectful of the other person’s time by not interrupting or finishing what they are saying before they have finished talking.

It also means not taking too much time yourself when you are speaking so that the other person doesn’t get bored or distracted from what you are saying. Taking turns teaches children patience and encourages them to listen more carefully because they know that there will be an opportunity for them later on in the conversation or activity.

These are important social skills that will help children become more successful and make friends.

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What You Can Do to Help Your Child Learn Basic Social Skills:

Model Social Skills for Your Child

If you want your child to learn basic social skills, you need to model them yourself. This is because children learn by watching others and copying their behavior. If you want your child to have positive relationships with others, then you need to demonstrate these behaviors for them to see.

When you’re out in public with your child, look for opportunities for them to demonstrate social skills activity and encourage them when they do so. Praise them for using the appropriate words or gestures, like “please” or “thank you”.

Don’t be critical of their mistakes but rather point out what they did right so that they can build on it in the future. 

Use Natural Consequences Instead of Punishment When Possible 

To teach your child basic social skills effectively, it’s important not only to point out what they did wrong but also what they did right. When they are being aggressive or disrespectful towards others, it can be tempting to punish them immediately to try and stop the behavior as soon as possible.

However, if you can refrain from punishing them and instead use natural consequences, you can help them learn what they did wrong without the negative emotional expressions that punishment often brings.

For example, if your child is having a hard time sharing their toys at playtime, then you can encourage them to try again and give them another chance to share.

If they still have trouble with it after a few more tries, then take away the toy for a while until they can get back in the sharing mood.

You can also ask other children to join in and play with your child so that they don’t feel left out or excluded from the group.

Focus on One Social Skill at a Time

It’s important not to overwhelm your child by trying to teach them too many social skills at once. This will make it difficult for them to focus on any one skill because there are so many others that are being introduced at the same time.

Instead, focus on one skill at a time and practice it consistently over several days or weeks in a social environment before moving on to another skill.

For example, you might start by focusing on having your child say “please” when asking for something or using their words instead of actions when they are upset.

Then, after a few days or weeks, you can move on to another skill like taking turns in a group activity. This will help your child to learn each skill thoroughly and also to feel more confident about their abilities.

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