Parenting is a choice that we make, and we all have our own reasons for making it. For some, it is simply a way of life. It is a fundamental aspect of who they are and what they stand for. For others, it is a way to bond with their children, showing them that they matter.
Parenting also gives us the opportunity to shape our children into who they are going to be as adults. No matter what your reason may be, the outcome will always depend on your own ability to set and enforce rules and provide guidance in their lives.
When it comes down to parenting styles, there are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and neglectful.
We can describe each of these parenting styles as either an “authoritative” or “permissive” style. The below section will describe the four different types of parenting styles.
Authoritarian parenting is the most common type of parenting. We define it as parents who are “controlling”, “demanding” and “constrained” in their interactions with their children.
Authoritarian parents are not always abusive or harsh, but they tend to have very rigid rules that they will enforce over and over again without much concern for the consequences of enforcing these rules. They have great parental control and behavioral control.
A very strict set of rules and regulations characterizes authoritarian parenting, as well as very harsh punishment for any kind of misconduct. We can describe it as being “strict but fair”. The rules are so strict that they are often inflexible and unforgiving.
Some parents may even refuse to let their children have friends over to their house, unless they invite the child first. They may not allow their children to have any kind of fun at all. Authoritarian parents have limited flexibility.
Parents who are into authoritarian style are very overprotective, and they also demand that their children obey them without question or question whatsoever. They are often hard on their children, both physically and emotionally.
The authoritarian parenting style believes that they know what is best for their children and will punish them if they don’t agree with what the parent thinks is best for them.
Authoritarian parents may also make harsh judgments about the way in which their children look or act, which can cause some very deep emotional scars for years to come.
Authoritative parenting is a way of being that seeks to set boundaries while encouraging growth and development in children. This type of parenting does not require parents to be perfect, but it does require them to be responsible for their actions when interacting with their children.
Authoritative parents who are authoritative have a tendency to show empathy towards their children while still being able to set firm limits on what they can and cannot do.
We often describe the authoritative style of parenting as being “relaxed but firm”. This type of parenting style allows its children some freedom, but still gives clear and strict rules and regulations.
Children who are authoritative are able to make their own decisions, but the parent still has the final say in all situations.
The authoritative parenting style allows its children to have a certain amount of freedom, but it also makes sure that they understand that we will always hold them accountable for their actions.
It teaches them that there are consequences for every action and that no matter what, they must always follow the rules.
Permissive parenting is the opposite of authoritative parenting because it lacks firm limits on behavior and limits many actions we consider negative or inappropriate for children (i.e., bedtime rituals, disciplining, eating habits).
The goal of permissive parents is to make sure that their children feel safe while still allowing them to explore their environment and express themselves in any way that they see fit.
We often describe permissive style as being “liberal but firm”. This type of parenting style allows its children to do what they want, whenever they want to do it. We also know it as “hands off” parenting because it places no restrictions on its children whatsoever.
However, permissive parents often leave their children to fend for themselves without any guidance or help whatsoever, which can lead to them doing some very bad things in their lives.
Permissive parents believe that they know what is best for their children and will not stand in the way of their decisions at all costs, even if those decisions go against the law or violate other people’s rights.
Neglectful parenting is the least common type of parenting. It is defined as neglectful parents who are “uninvolved parenting style”, “aloof” and “disengaged” from their children.
This type of parenting does not involve harshness, substance abuse, or physical abuse, but it does leave children to be responsible for themselves in many situations and tends to neglect the importance of healthy boundaries in their lives.
Neglectful parenting is a term that is often used to describe the neglect of a child, but it can also be used to describe parents who neglect their children. This type of parenting is characterized by lack of interest in children and a lack of concern for their well-being.
It is a parenting style that is often ignored by the parents themselves and tends to lead to a variety of problems for children.
In conclusion, the impact of parenting styles is different. You can choose which type of parent is suitable for your conditions. Moreover, you also have to adjust to the nature and condition of your child.
If you are asking yourself this question, then it is time to take a step back and evaluate what you want out of parenting. It is important to take into consideration what you want out of parenting before making any decisions about which style you will use when raising your children.
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